How to be truly happy for the rest of your life!!

Often I hear people tell me that they are thinking of leaving their partners because they are unhappy. When I ask them to tell me why it is they think they are unhappy in the relationship, they find it difficult to pin point any reason and say the words’ I’m not sure’, ‘I’m just not happy’ or ‘It’s just not working out like I thought it would’.

I tend to feel, that if you cannot give any good reason of why you are unhappy with your relationship, then the reason is YOU.

On the other hand I often hear people who are single telling me that they are unhappy and that they need to find somebody to fulfil their happiness, and shortly following that there is usually a long list of very specific qualities that they want that person to have.

Here I think, are you actually looking for somebody with all these qualities, or are they qualities that you admire? That you would like to have as part of yourself but do not believe you can obtain, so you look for them in someone else. (which would explain why people hold such high standards for the person they are involved with, and get let down so quickly.) You yourself, if you wanted to, could possess all of these qualities and be complete, without anyone else! Making the search for a partner much more open minded and enjoyable.

Whether single or taken, people are always coming to me, to confide and talk about how their state of happiness has been affected. For those of you who I have never had a conversation with like that, I say to you this…

Your happiness doesn’t need to be determined by whoever you are romantically involved with. You can be truly happy with or without being in a relationship. Whoever you are with does not determine your happiness. They are an accessory to your life but not necessarily to your state of mind and well being. Which is where your happiness originates from. If you are unhappy whilst in or not in a relationship then you are unhealthy or unfulfilled. It does not necessarily mean that another person is not fulfilling your needs or that you need a person to fulfil them. You are in control of your body’s health and your state of mind, not anyone else. So you are in control of fulfilling your own happiness.

People! When you feel unhappy stop looking to blame those who are around you. When you feel unfulfilled stop searching for someone who you think will fill that void in you.

You are in control of your happiness, end the search. Find yourself within yourself and people will gravitate towards you and stay. Do whatever you need to do in order to create that healthy sate of mind and well being Take the journey with yourself before you take it with someone else, know your true self and your true needs out of life and you will be truly happy what ever you do in life, who ever you are with!

Fall in love with yourself and make it forever!

Peace out my lovelies!! ☮ xxx

Potoo knows Fee would murder to get that apartment..but that’s none of his buiness..*sip*

A humble artist’s dream home..

I just want a large open plan eclectic artist’s studio flat. With walls of windows, bookshelves up to the ceiling, drapes down to the floor. Space for my aisles, my workshop and all it’s equipment. Wall mounts for my bikes, my wine. A huge island of a kitchen in the centre with hanging pots and pans and foods. Open sand brick walls, a projector..and everything else will fall into place ❤

I would murder to live somewhere just like this..alone..with my future wife the Potoo bird ❤

We’d be happy..

This is me, showing my understanding the purpose of this media in the make up industry for my Uni…

Why it is so required that we have a blog if we work in the Make up and Special Effects industry…   Here are a few good reasons why a blog is an essential for make up artists these days whether they are aspiring novices or experienced professionals in the industry:

Networking – showing others your work such as fellow make up artists or potential collaborators or employers. Can even link this to employers in an email when you send them your portfolio.

A chance to expose your personality with themes, posts, videos, pictures.

Public reviews, positive feedback and comments can help boost popularity

Can put this on a business card.

Can go further into depth – a chance to upload ‘making of’ pictures whilst or after on set to show your skills and abilities in more detail than just the finished piece – which is essentially what your portfolio is for – all your best work, this is a more personal look at your work where you can show all the grimy bits, show mistakes reflect and evaluate.

Can be linked to your model mayhem, purple port, twitter, facebook, instagram, google account etc to create a wider network of public exposure.

This is what you want the more likes and views and visits your blog gets, the ore it will appear in search engines..which will start it to become an international hit.

Once you’re more confident with your blog set your social networking so that whatever you post will post to them too creating more publicity and interest.

Basically just spam everyone haha! share your blog on all your friends social networking pages, it can’t do any harm because even if they remove it, that’s fine, someone will see it pop up in those first few seconds or minutes, they will probably have to click on it first out of curiosity and even if who ever clicks on it contributes no more than that, you’re still gaining one ore view out of it each time.

 

 

 

 

Dusty (Springfield) , Georgey Girl and Me

Just encase any of you were wondering where the drag queen first found it’s confidence and inspiration to expose the scene into the public eye, here are a few notes I collected from another courses’ seminar (that we were invited to) I attended about Dusty Springfield and her revolutionary techniques to open peoples minds to not just different cultures of music but to self expression and equality in the 1960’s…

– most famous in 1960’s Britain, 1970’s America

– some say she was the best pop singer of all time

– She fused white pop music with american black soul

-Campaigned to expose american soul singers to wider audiences on British TV

– inspired Amy Whinehouse and Duffy

– Dusty’s legacy had been an academically translated vehicle to interrogate ‘queer’ expressions in identity

– High hair, heavy eye makeup and multiple lashes

– she was quoted to say ‘ basically I am a drag queen myself’

– Dusty knew how she was being portrayed as a drag queen to others, she had a clear vision of her identity, and although this caused controversy she lied that fact and didn’t let it stop her

– She is an example of a very strong woman fighting for equality and awareness of equality of the sexes, sexuality and race

– Dusty had a certain over sentimentality, a showy, glitzy display of a type of femininity that men aspire to as drag queens

– Big, pumped up lips, eyebrows heavily defined, multiple lashes covered in coatings of mascara

– Dusty loved to be camp. Part of her camp mascaraed were the songs : ‘Everyday I have to cry’ and ‘Ready steady go’

– Camp over kill is what got a lot of her fans in the LGBT community and beyond, back brushed and mussed-up peroxide hair, heavy black ‘panda-like’ eye make up, false lashes and bright pink lipstick all completely shatters the naturalistic illusion of femininity and creates a  highly held lesbian re-signification of the gay man in drag

– She performed with a diva-like aloofness, mock mela-drama, turning her song ‘Losing you’ into a comic statement of fact (Smith)

-For Dusty 1960’s expressions of gender (femininity) were limited, she wanted to push the barriers for others to feel comfortable expressing themselves

-pseudo femininity

 

 

Newcastle pride makeup job

Two night eye makeup looks

Creative hair postiche for theatre or dance – Disney inspired Princess look

Postiche Assessment TV Hair extensions – Celebrity Cook Show

‘Taylor Momson’ inspired heavey eyes..